Tips To Manage Stress
Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't try to ignore feelings of aggravation.
Acknowledge them, then look beyond them to specific solutions. If that's
not possible; then know that in the next hour, day, or week, the situation
will change. Keep your perspective. Are the crises of two years ago important
now, or have they been forgotten? Small stressors loom large in the present,
but fade quickly if you let them. See them for what they are: small irritants,
not earthshaking crises. Mark Twain used to say, "I've had a lot of worries
in my life, most of which have never happened."
Don't let guilt get to you. Guilt is destructive and can be a major
source of unrelenting stress. If you have regrets, and it is possible to
apologize to someone or repair some damage done, then do so and move on.
Don't let others manipulate you using guilt. Do what you need to do, to
make sure it doesn't happen again and be grateful for the lessons learned.
Develop coping strategies. Learn that you are not helpless in the
situations that trigger stressful responses. Use these triggers to develop
more resourceful and useful responses.
Learn to accept and adapt to change. Learn to have faith and practice
being optimistic even in uncertain situations. Recognize that even the
darkest clouds have a silver lining. Look for the opportunity to learn
and grow and become more flexible through adversity. Take a leadership
approach to problem solving. Don't let your problems immobilize you.
Change the way you look at stress. Stress is not an external force.
It is the way you react to people, places and things. You have control
over that. Look for choices and alternatives. Don't let fear take over.
Break the problem down into small chunks that can be managed. See difficult
situations as a chance to improve your problem solving skills. See them
as enjoyable and challenging. Remember that things turn out best for people
who make the best of the way things turn out.
Develop a support system. Everyone needs at least one person who
acts as a sounding board. Choose some one you feel safe with, who you know
you can share your hopes and fears with, without being judged. Just verbalizing
feelings can be a great source of relief. Friends multiply joy and divide
Learn to accept the things you can not change. The serenity prayer
says it all: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not
change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know
the difference." Patience plays a large role in learning to accept what
you can not change. Practice it often and it will become easier with time.
Patience is sometimes putting up with people you would like to pu down.
Don't confuse acceptance with becoming helpless. Keeping busy and understanding
that life is cyclical and ups and downs are all a part of the process will
Develop a personalized anti-stress regimen. This regimen should emphasize
a healthy diet, exercise, and relaxation. It should be convenient, time
effective, inexpensive and most important of all, enjoyable. Experimentation
can provide you with one that is just right for you!
Don't take it personally. Fate doesn't single you out. When you are
the target of someone else's bad day, just remember that if you weren't
there, someone else would be the target instead. By not taking other's
negative behavior personally, you can break the stress cycle. You shouldn't
accept unpleasantness passively, but assert your right to be treated with
respect, or temporarily remove yourself from the situation.
Believe in yourself. You are your own best friend. Remember that
courage is believing in yourself when no one else does. Know that you have
all the resources within you to make the changes you need to make and to
meet all the challenges that life presents you with. This doesn't mean
you have to do it alone. True strength is in knowing when to ask for help.
Self confidence is trusting in yourself to meet life's challenges with
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